5 Habits I Quit To Simplify Life | Design A Simple Life - 双语字幕
We all want a less complicated life, but it doesn't always work that way, at least not for me.
There have been circumstances in the past when my decisions ended up complicating instead of simplifying things.
My life isn't perfect and some days are tougher than others,
but by eliminating these five habits to simplify my life, it's a little lighter and less stressful.
Society, along with our own mental projections, tend to create deadlines for certain live milestones without logical reason.
Oftentimes, these timelines are based on what the majority is doing, a college degree,
a high-paying job, home ownership, marriage, kids' retirement, all in that precise order.
When we use other people's achievements to gauge our own adequacy,
this gives us a false sense of inferiority or It makes us anxiously rush from one timeline to another,
and even question our decision if we find ourselves deviating from the norm.
But there is no single path in life.
Our story will always look different from others, and that is perfectly fine.
We get one life.
It's meant to be lived in our best and not what's correct according to social conditioning.
So, the next time we feel behind in life, it's good to check in and ask ourselves
whose timeline are we trying to keep up with, hours or theirs.
Because the easiest thing to be in the world is you.
The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be.
Don't let them put you in that position.
We have all heard of the phrase, think before you speak.
But it's something I have struggled applying in my life, as it's much easier to react quickly sometimes.
I could remember several situations in the past when I said something I later wished I didn't.
Our words have power and can either negatively or positively impact ourselves and others.
The poet Rumi talked about letting our thoughts pass through three gates to discern whether something's worth staying out loud or not.
At the first gate we ask ourselves, is it true?
At the second we ask, is it necessary?
At the third gate we ask, is it kind?
We are the gatekeepers.
It is challenging to not say things on an impulse, and I fail at this sometimes too.
But when we take a moment to pause and think before we speak, we minimize complications in our lives.
Other people's opinions of us don't have to become our reality.
We do this by choosing not to react.
It interrupts our usual pattern and tendencies, and this helps us to choose a healthier response, especially when others say unkind things to us.
Because what others say about us is a reflection of their perception But our reaction,
on the other hand, is a reflection of who we are.
I used to tell myself I could never simplify my life because the complications were outside my control.
I saw myself as a victim of my busy schedule, my endless responsibilities, and my lack of free time.
In fact, I blamed everything else but me.
But, looking deeply, these complications were consequences of my decisions.
I didn't set boundaries at work and in my personal life which caused me to be busy, distracted, and most of the time.
Simplifying may mean questioning our tendencies and challenging the status quo.
quote, to choose a less complicated path.
Our happiness diminishes when we set unrealistic standards and comply with societal pressures.
Our well-being falls apart when we don't establish boundaries.
And relationships suffer when we are discontent and search for more, instead of focusing on love and companionship.
It's funny that I wanted to make my life simple, Yet there I was creating complicated rules and ideas in various aspects of my life.
We don't have to wait for a perfect timing or to have all the perfect conditions to align
first before we could simplify and slow down our lives.
We can do it at any time we want, because we either make our choices deliberately or allow other people's agendas to control our lives.
It's all up to us.
Much of the complexities in my life were from wanting a lot of things.
But the more I think about it, many of my purchases from the past were made on the basis of two beliefs.
One, if I had newer and more stuff, my life would be better.
And two, if I buy these things, others will value me more.
I purchased or read a nice gift.
that was beyond my budget, thinking that it would inspire me to become a better writer.
I bought more clothes than what my closet could hold because I didn't want others to think I was repeating my wardrobe.
Yet the more I acquired the more discontent I became.
My choices made my day-to-day more complicated, my lifestyle more expensive, and my free time less and less.
Our purchasing decisions are personal, yet I think it's important to keep things in perspective at all times.
Otherwise, we may be buying things we don't with money we don't have and to impress people we don't like.
We live in the age of multitasking and we may know of friends,
family members and even strangers who seem to get everything done and don't get exhausted.
Or at least that's what we assume.
There's subtle pressure to do it all.
Work, keep up with chores, have hobbies, exercise, maintain a social life, etc.
I was guilty of placing so many expectations.
and it was overwhelming.
I wanted to do it all because this made me feel special, capable, important, and in control.
In reality, however, I was just falling apart.
The no-brainer solution to overwhelm is to simplify, subtract, and slow down.
But instead of subtracting, I was adding more things into my life.
Productivity apps, tools, trackers, and to help me keep up with these tasks.
There's nothing wrong with trying to be more efficient and productive,
but I'm sure we all know that doing more than what we can handle is detrimental to our health,
the work output, and the quality of our life.
We can simplify our lives, but we have to put in the work.
It's not about simplifying or choosing to have less, thus for the sake of having less.
or to make our lives look a certain way from the outside looking in.
But it's all about simplifying to create a life that supports us, our goals and our values.
Thank you for watching this video.
I it added value to you, wishing you a wonderful day or night, and I hope to see you again next time.
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